Message from Paul:
My lines are criss-crossed to a point where I can’t figure out whom has been paired with whom (or is it “who“–I never have been able to figure that one out)! If you haven’t been paired with someone yet, please contact them this week and pray for them. If you have been through the circuit, please pray for who(m)ever the Holy Spirit leads you!
Clarification from Peter:
‘Who’ is used for subjects, and ‘whom’ for objects, which means that you will most often use ‘whom’ after the verb or after a preposition (to, for, with, etc.). Use ‘whom’ whenever you would use ‘him.’
Further clarification from Peter:
English pronouns are used so frequently that they are not very susceptible to change, so you see the remnants of an ancient case system. In that system, the role a word plays in a sentence is signified by the form of the word itself. In modern English, we just put words in different positions in the sentence to do the same thing, but we don’t change their form.
In the end, usage dictates grammar. So if you can get everyone you know just to give up using ‘whom’ altogether, you’ll never have to suffer through these kinds of “clarifications” and “further clarifications.”